Eliot was born into the prominent
Eliot family of
St. Louis, Missouri. His father,
Henry Ware Eliot (1843–1919), was a successful businessman, president and treasurer of the Hydraulic-Press Brick Company in St. Louis; his mother, born
Charlotte Champe Stearns (1843–1929), wrote poems and was also a social worker. Eliot was the last of six surviving children; his parents were both 44 years old when he was born. His four sisters were between eleven and nineteen years older than him; his brother was eight years older. Known to family and friends as Tom, he was the namesake of his maternal grandfather, Thomas Stearns.
From 1898 to 1905, Eliot was a day student at
Smith Academy, a preparatory school for Washington University. At the academy, Eliot studied
Latin, Greek, French, and
German. Upon graduation, he could have gone to
Harvard University, but his parents sent him to
Milton Academy (in
Milton, Massachusetts, near
Boston) for a preparatory year. There he met
Scofield Thayer, who would later publish
The Waste Land. He studied at Harvard, where he earned a
B.A., from 1906 to 1909. The
Harvard Advocate published some of his poems, and he became lifelong friends with
Conrad Aiken. The next year, he earned a master's degree at Harvard. In the 1910–1911 school year, Eliot lived in
Paris, studying at the
Sorbonne and touring the continent.
Returning to Harvard in 1911 as a doctoral student in
philosophy, Eliot studied the writings of
F.H. Bradley, Buddhism and
Indic philology (learning
Sanskrit and
Pāli to read some of the religious texts.) He was awarded a scholarship to attend
Merton College, Oxford in 1914, and, before settling there, he visited
Marburg, Germany, where he planned to take a summer program in philosophy. When the
First World War broke out, however, he went to
London and then to Oxford. In a letter to Aiken late in December 1914, Eliot, aged 26, wrote "I am very dependent upon women (I mean female society)" and then added a complaint that he was still a
virgin. Less than four months later, he was introduced by Thayer, then also at Oxford, to
Cambridge governess
Vivienne Haigh-Wood (
May 28, 1888 –
January 22, 1947). Eliot was not happy at Merton and declined a second year there. Instead, on
26 June 1915, he married Vivienne in a
register office. After a short visit, alone, to the U. S. to see his family, he returned to London and took a few teaching jobs such as lecturing at
Birkbeck College, University of London. He continued to work on his dissertation and, in the spring of 1916, sent it to Harvard, which accepted it. Because he did not appear in person to defend his dissertation, however, he was not awarded his Ph.D. (In 1964, the dissertation was published as
Knowledge and Experience in the Philosophy of F. H. Bradley.) During Eliot's university career, he studied with
George Santayana, Irving Babbitt, Henri Bergson, C. R. Lanman, Josiah Royce, Bertrand Russell, and
Harold Joachim.
Bertrand Russell took an interest in Vivien (the spelling she preferred) while the newlyweds stayed in his flat. Some scholars have suggested that Vivien and Russell had an affair (see Carole Seymour-Jones,
Painted Shadow), but these allegations have never been confirmed. Eliot, in a private paper, written in his sixties, confessed: "I came to persuade myself that I was in love with Vivienne simply because I wanted to burn my boats and commit myself to staying in England. And she persuaded herself (also under the influence of
Pound) that she would save the poet by keeping him in England. To her, the marriage brought no happiness. To me, it brought the state of mind out of which came
The Waste Land."
After leaving Merton, Eliot worked as a school teacher, most notably at
Highgate School, where he taught the young
John Betjeman and later at the
Royal Grammar School, High Wycombe. To earn extra money, he wrote book reviews and lectured at evening extension courses. In 1917, he took a position at
Lloyds Bank in London, where he worked on foreign accounts. In August 1920, Eliot met
James Joyce on a trip to Paris, accompanied by
Wyndham Lewis. After the meeting, Eliot said he found Joyce arrogant (Joyce doubted Eliot's ability as a poet at the time), but the two soon became friends with Eliot visiting Joyce whenever he was in Paris. In 1925, Eliot left Lloyds to join the publishing firm of
Faber and Gwyer (later
Faber and Faber), where he remained for the rest of his career, becoming a director of the firm.