Pallenberg is known for her romantic involvement with Rolling Stones band members
Brian Jones, whom she met in 1965, and
Keith Richards, for whom she left Jones in 1967. There were rumours that she also had a brief affair with
Mick Jagger during the filming of
Performance, a movie in which she acted and co-wrote the script, yet she never dignified the gossip; in fact, she strongly denied the affair in March 2007 when
Performance was released on DVD. Pallenberg and Richards had three children, a son born in 1969 named Marlon, a daughter, Angela (nee Dandelion) born in 1972 and another boy, Tara, who was born in 1976, but died of health complications soon after birth.
Pallenberg's influence over the development and presentation of the
Rolling Stones from the late sixties throughout the seventies was significant and has been documented in many publications on the band during this period and afterwards. She played an unusual role in the male dominated world of
rock and roll in the late
sixties, acting as much more than just a
groupie or wife of a band member. There are published anecdotes that her opinion was so grudgingly respected by Mick Jagger that tracks on
Beggars Banquet were brought back into the studio and remixed when Pallenberg found them wanting just weeks before the official release date. In the 2002 compilation release of
Forty Licks, Pallenberg is credited as singing background vocals on "
Sympathy for the Devil". Besides her influence over the Stones' musical content, her interest in the
occult was a featured style component that marked the Stones concerts and public presentation throughout the decade that she was the common-law companion of Richards. Tony Sanchez's recounting of his time as Richard’s body guard and drug dealer is replete with vignettes of Pallenberg’s strange spiritual practices.
She was obsessed with black magic and began to carry a string of garlic with her everywhere—even to bed—to ward off vampires. She also had a strange mysterious old shaker for holy water which she used for some of her rituals. Her ceremonies became increasingly secret, and she warned me never to interrupt her when she was working on a spell.<ref> Sanchez, Tony. Up & Down with the Rolling Stones. New York: Da Capo Press, 1996 (originally 1980)</ref>
Although she was the mother of Richards' children and ruler of the household in a domestic sense, she shared many of her husband's vices and was in fact charged first in the 1977
Toronto heroin arrest that almost destroyed the Rolling Stones. A warrant for her arrest was the reason police came to search Richards and Pallenberg's hotel rooms; she would plead guilty to
marijuana possession, and be fined, several weeks after her common-law husband's headline grabbing arrest. The relationship between Richards and Pallenberg waned after Richards cleaned up under threat of imprisonment and he stated in a 1981
Rolling Stone magazine interview that his lawyers told the couple to separate, or they would end up in more serious trouble. Yet Richards also stated that he still loved Anita and saw her as much as he ever did, despite his budding devotion to his future wife
Patti Hansen. In a 1985
Rolling Stone magazine interview,
Mick Jagger claimed that Pallenberg "nearly killed me". when he was asked whether the Rolling Stones had any responsibility for the personal drug addictions of people close to the band, like
Marshall Chess, John Phillips and Pallenberg. Nevertheless, Richards continued to welcome Pallenberg to family events and concert tours, where she often accompanies her children and grandchildren and reportedly is close friends with Patti Hansen. Singer
Marianne Faithfull was also Jagger's girlfriend during late 1960s, and remains a great friend of Pallenberg's. They appeared together in the fourth series (2001) of the BBC-TV/Comedy Central/Saunders and French production of
Absolutely Fabulous in episode four "Donkey", with Marianne Faithfull playing "God" and Anita Pallenberg "The Devil" in a dream sequence experienced by
Jennifer Saunders' character of
Edina Monsoon.