Marriage to John Adams and After
Abigail Smith married
John Adams in 1764, just before her 20th birthday. John and Abigail Adams lived in
Braintree (later renamed Quincy) before moving to
Boston where his practice expanded. In ten years she gave birth to five children:
Nabby (1765-1813), the future President
John Quincy Adams (1767-1848), Susanna Boylston (1768-1770), Charles (1770-1800), and Thomas Boylston (1772-1832).
A
cairn now crowns the nearby hill from which she and her son John Quincy Adams watched the
Battle of Bunker Hill and burning of Charlestown. At that time she was minding the children of
Dr. Joseph Warren, President of the Massachusetts Provincial Congress, who was killed in the battle.
Adams is remembered today for the many letters she wrote to her husband while he stayed in
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, during the
Continental Congresses. Many consider them to be invaluable eyewitness accounts of the
Revolutionary War home front as well as excellent sources of political commentary.
John Adams frequently sought the advice of his wife on many matters, and their letters are filled with intellectual discussions on government and politics. Passages from those letters figured prominently in songs from the Broadway musical
1776 (and the 1972 film of it, with
Virginia Vestoff as Abigail Adams). She is known for her request that he and the Continental Congress:
:
...remember the ladies, and be more generous and favorable to them than your ancestors. Do not put such unlimited power into the hands of the Husbands. Remember all Men would be tyrants if they could. If particular care and attention is not paid to the Ladies we are determined to foment a Rebellion, and will not hold ourselves bound by any Laws in which we have no voice, or Representation.
John answered:
...as to your extraordinary code of laws, I cannot but laugh...Depend upon it, we know better Than to repeal our masculine systems...
In 1784, she and her daughter Abigail, who was known in the family as 'Nabby', joined her husband and her eldest son, John Quincy at his diplomatic post in
Paris. After 1785, she filled the role of wife of the first United States Minister to the
Kingdom of Great Britain. They returned in 1788 to a house known as the "
Old House" in Quincy, which she set about vigorously enlarging and remodeling. It is still standing and open to the public as part of
Adams National Historical Park. Nabby later died of breast cancer.
As wife of the second
President of the United States, Adams became a very good friend to
Martha Washington and helped in entertaining at official functions, (generally known then as levees). Her experience of royal courts and society abroad proved to be invaluable. After 1791, her poor health forced her to spend most of her time in Quincy.
Abigail died several years before her son, John Quincy Adams, became president.