Afanasy was the child of a German woman named Charlotta who was initially married to Johann Foeth. She remarried a rich Russian landlord named Shenshin in 1822 after Afanasy's birth in 1820. It is unclear if Afanasy was the son of Foeth or Shenshin, but the decision was made by the Holy Consistory in Orel that he would go by his German father's name because the marriage between his mother and his Russian father was not legitimized soon enough. This was quite traumatic for him as he completely identified himself with Shenshin and not Foeth. He spent his youth studying at the
Moscow University, and serving in the
army (until 1856). In 1850, a young woman named Maria Lazich who was in love with Fet but who could not marry him because of financial reasons perished, having accidentally set herself on fire. This event and the image of Maria would be frequently evoked by Fet even in his latest verses. The stigma of illegitimacy haunted him all through his life, and after years of
litigation he obtained the right to use the prestigious name Shenshin (1876). Promotion in the army ranks helped him to secure the longed-for admission to Russian
nobility as well, just in time when the serfdom was abolished.
Fet was despised and ridiculed by the radicals as a mean personality of reactionary political views, but this doesn't concern his poetry. He held the view that a poet's lifestyle has little bearing to his art, and that artist doesn't have to be sincere. While in the army, he made friends with another officer,
Leo Tolstoy, whom he always admired. Later he settled at the Stepanovka manor in his home district of
Mtsensk and visited his illustrious neighbour as often as possible. Among Tolstoy's friends, he was the only professional man of letters.
In his later years, he also wrote literary reminiscences and translated the
Aeneid and
The World as Will and Representation. At an old age, when his suffering became unbearable, Fet attempted to follow
Schopenhauer's advice and commit suicide but was stymied by his family. He died from a heart attack during another suicide attempt.